OMG I had to get this video off the Towelroad blog for some kick-ass laughs. Straight from the Onion, they hit the nail on the satirical head with this Halloween guide for parents determined not to let their boys look like sissies on Halloween.
As the video quotes explains, "If you want your child to depict a male-dominated profession, be very careful not to choose one that's been co-opted by the gay community like a fireman, a cop, a cowboy...otherwise they'll just end up looking like a stripper."
Have a Happy Halloween and enjoy....
How To Find A Masculine Halloween Costume For Your Effeminate Son
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Sunday, October 25, 2009
The Underground
This happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Well, while we trainin' it up outside, we had some downtime to just sit and have our minds wander. Well, some of the guys in my company were just jokin' and chatting like guys do. But one of the topics that the guys surprisingly talked about was how does one become gay? One of the what if question that started the topic was what would be worse to have: a gay son or a slut (eventually pregnant) daughter. Well, this conversation got my attention, but stopped myself from jumping in, and just casually observe and listen in, which we all were kinda sittin' in a semi arch. Anyways, One of the guys said that he had an awesome mentor/teacher that had the most amazing war stories being deployed but had a son that was gay. So they were talking about how this amazing guy just so happens to have a gay son and the guy telling about this situation said that he asked that amazing guy what he thought about it. He replied that it's weird sure at first, but it is what it is. He'll always be his son.
But the guys that listened were still trying to understand how someone can turn or be 'gay'. How does this happen? These guys were academy grads so they tended to be of the more traditional bunch, but I was thinkin' the same thing, how the hell does this happen? Who can choose this knowingly? I sure as hell didn't. But the guys were trying to argue that maybe it the psychology of a person or the history of a family or even maybe, just maybe, you can predict that that a person is gay on if the ring finger is higher than the index finger. And then they all tried to measure their hands and compare. I showed them mine and then I said, "Well, then I guess I'm gay according to that." Hahahaha. You have no idea the bitter-sweet irony I felt then and there at that moment. I had to take it in. .Ironic. Beautiful. Divine. Divine justice or injustice? One thing's for sure they all knew, DADT is inevitably going to be gone and THEN, everyone in the mil is all gonna have to deal with it, regardless. Better for them to talk about it now than later I guess.
Well, this is the play of my life. It feels like I'm in a play cause I'm playing a double act or a double agent of some sort. It really is like I'm some spy looking on the inside of a warrior society of loyalty, duty, and traditionalism. But you know, it's not hard to act 'straight'. I mean if you're conscious of your body language, voice, and mannerisms with professionalism on top, you pretty much got it. It's just hard to be fully human or real here. It's hard to have a social life and even harder for a dating relationship. Men trip not on mountains, but on mole holes, and its the simple-conservation-mole-holes that I have to watch out for in social situations everytime in mil company. But you know what's also hard, finding the 'others' like me on active duty or at least from the officer side of the fence. I feel just like a hetero too trying to speculate on whether a person is gay or not. You can have your opinions and perceptions but you can never really know....Unless you ask, which I can't do obviously. It's like finding an underground group I know I have to seek out and listen out for before I get the access to be the real me around these select people. So I've got to go deeper underground.
But the guys that listened were still trying to understand how someone can turn or be 'gay'. How does this happen? These guys were academy grads so they tended to be of the more traditional bunch, but I was thinkin' the same thing, how the hell does this happen? Who can choose this knowingly? I sure as hell didn't. But the guys were trying to argue that maybe it the psychology of a person or the history of a family or even maybe, just maybe, you can predict that that a person is gay on if the ring finger is higher than the index finger. And then they all tried to measure their hands and compare. I showed them mine and then I said, "Well, then I guess I'm gay according to that." Hahahaha. You have no idea the bitter-sweet irony I felt then and there at that moment. I had to take it in. .Ironic. Beautiful. Divine. Divine justice or injustice? One thing's for sure they all knew, DADT is inevitably going to be gone and THEN, everyone in the mil is all gonna have to deal with it, regardless. Better for them to talk about it now than later I guess.
Well, this is the play of my life. It feels like I'm in a play cause I'm playing a double act or a double agent of some sort. It really is like I'm some spy looking on the inside of a warrior society of loyalty, duty, and traditionalism. But you know, it's not hard to act 'straight'. I mean if you're conscious of your body language, voice, and mannerisms with professionalism on top, you pretty much got it. It's just hard to be fully human or real here. It's hard to have a social life and even harder for a dating relationship. Men trip not on mountains, but on mole holes, and its the simple-conservation-mole-holes that I have to watch out for in social situations everytime in mil company. But you know what's also hard, finding the 'others' like me on active duty or at least from the officer side of the fence. I feel just like a hetero too trying to speculate on whether a person is gay or not. You can have your opinions and perceptions but you can never really know....Unless you ask, which I can't do obviously. It's like finding an underground group I know I have to seek out and listen out for before I get the access to be the real me around these select people. So I've got to go deeper underground.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Tales of Truth
Dear blog readers,
For the past weeks, I've been contemplating about continuing writing in this blog for sometime, especially with the current news about the LGBT community, but each time I want to, I'm always afraid to write about myself because of the fact of being pursued or being found out. I'm currently in the armed service and with the DADT policy still in affect-well you get the point. But I'm tired of being silent and sealing it all in. I don't want to lose my fucking insanity. I want to write about what I go thru living under this DADT policy as a young officer and what I have experienced and experience daily to add my perspective in order to fight against this policy and to promote equality and justice for all, including sexual minorities. So if I died tomorrow, at least the world will know thru you, dear reader, that I spoke out, that I served my country honorably as best as I could, even under the circumstances of this policy, and that my voice was heard or recorded for all to take in, reflect, and learn from.
I highly value my privacy and before I share anything further, I must write this disclaimer for my legal sake. I am not in any way speaking for or representing the US Department of Defense or its military branches such as the US Coast Guard, Navy, Army, Marines, or Air Force while writing this blog. I am writing this blog as myself, an individual out of uniform, and just as a fellow US citizen who happens to currently serve. I am not publicly out, and I desire to keep it that way. I am also not publicly coming out onto this blog obviously. Though this is a public domain, I do desire to remain anonymous in not revealing my personal info or identity, so please dear reader, do not ask who I personally am (hence Don't Ask, Don't Tell) or pursue me in any way. This is definitely not a protest blog and I'm not gonna be sharing any confidential stuff that would jeopardize me or my country. This blog is just like any typical blog that a service member would write in order stay connected to their family, friends, or community outside their current area stationed or deployed at, but just my own writing outlet. You can comment to me about anything you want, I welcome your comments and discussions-positive or negative (at least no FLAMING negative comments please), but all I ask is that you respect my privacy as well respect other readers.
Now that this is out of the way. I want to start out this conversation with the latest news on a gay man that was hazed (see below):
Now, if you deployed me tomorrow in Afghanistan and I was attacked by terrorists, hell ya, I'd be shitting bricks, but I'd also be shooting with my rifle back and defending my unit and fellow members as best that I could. But the thing that I fear the most are not terrorist attacking me in the dark of the night, but my own fellow service members that would not think twice about hazing me or even shooting me in the back of the head because I was a homosexual or perceived to be. My abuse or death would be considered a hate crime. And it would be ironic for my abusers because of the fact that they were motivated by hate and wanted to make an example of me in order to coerce, oppressive, or terrorize the sexual minority community, that they themselves become the terrorists they fight against and swore to fight for the equality of all U.S. citizens. This story reminds me that there are some people who are psycho-paths that would kill or attack any person that just even disagrees with their idea of heterosexuality and not be "gay." I am clearly reminded that even when the DADT policy is lifted, there's still the potential that my life could be threatened and that I could be a victim of such a hate crime, even in uniform and publicly open. I feel that there will even be some, such as myself, that will continue to be private about themselves or afraid to reveal their sexuality because of they don't want to be harassed or threatened their life for. But with the DADT lifted, it'll be one less thing I have to worry about out, which at least I'll know that I wasn't kicked out of military before being murdered victim of a hate crime. But I nevertheless place my confidence that when this DADT is lifted, our military will ensure the protection for all so that this never happens again like Rocha experienced. Rocha truly had the strength to endure this shit for 2 years deployed!!! I pray that never happens to anyone in uniform at all, especially from fellow serviced members.
For the past weeks, I've been contemplating about continuing writing in this blog for sometime, especially with the current news about the LGBT community, but each time I want to, I'm always afraid to write about myself because of the fact of being pursued or being found out. I'm currently in the armed service and with the DADT policy still in affect-well you get the point. But I'm tired of being silent and sealing it all in. I don't want to lose my fucking insanity. I want to write about what I go thru living under this DADT policy as a young officer and what I have experienced and experience daily to add my perspective in order to fight against this policy and to promote equality and justice for all, including sexual minorities. So if I died tomorrow, at least the world will know thru you, dear reader, that I spoke out, that I served my country honorably as best as I could, even under the circumstances of this policy, and that my voice was heard or recorded for all to take in, reflect, and learn from.
I highly value my privacy and before I share anything further, I must write this disclaimer for my legal sake. I am not in any way speaking for or representing the US Department of Defense or its military branches such as the US Coast Guard, Navy, Army, Marines, or Air Force while writing this blog. I am writing this blog as myself, an individual out of uniform, and just as a fellow US citizen who happens to currently serve. I am not publicly out, and I desire to keep it that way. I am also not publicly coming out onto this blog obviously. Though this is a public domain, I do desire to remain anonymous in not revealing my personal info or identity, so please dear reader, do not ask who I personally am (hence Don't Ask, Don't Tell) or pursue me in any way. This is definitely not a protest blog and I'm not gonna be sharing any confidential stuff that would jeopardize me or my country. This blog is just like any typical blog that a service member would write in order stay connected to their family, friends, or community outside their current area stationed or deployed at, but just my own writing outlet. You can comment to me about anything you want, I welcome your comments and discussions-positive or negative (at least no FLAMING negative comments please), but all I ask is that you respect my privacy as well respect other readers.
Now that this is out of the way. I want to start out this conversation with the latest news on a gay man that was hazed (see below):
Now, if you deployed me tomorrow in Afghanistan and I was attacked by terrorists, hell ya, I'd be shitting bricks, but I'd also be shooting with my rifle back and defending my unit and fellow members as best that I could. But the thing that I fear the most are not terrorist attacking me in the dark of the night, but my own fellow service members that would not think twice about hazing me or even shooting me in the back of the head because I was a homosexual or perceived to be. My abuse or death would be considered a hate crime. And it would be ironic for my abusers because of the fact that they were motivated by hate and wanted to make an example of me in order to coerce, oppressive, or terrorize the sexual minority community, that they themselves become the terrorists they fight against and swore to fight for the equality of all U.S. citizens. This story reminds me that there are some people who are psycho-paths that would kill or attack any person that just even disagrees with their idea of heterosexuality and not be "gay." I am clearly reminded that even when the DADT policy is lifted, there's still the potential that my life could be threatened and that I could be a victim of such a hate crime, even in uniform and publicly open. I feel that there will even be some, such as myself, that will continue to be private about themselves or afraid to reveal their sexuality because of they don't want to be harassed or threatened their life for. But with the DADT lifted, it'll be one less thing I have to worry about out, which at least I'll know that I wasn't kicked out of military before being murdered victim of a hate crime. But I nevertheless place my confidence that when this DADT is lifted, our military will ensure the protection for all so that this never happens again like Rocha experienced. Rocha truly had the strength to endure this shit for 2 years deployed!!! I pray that never happens to anyone in uniform at all, especially from fellow serviced members.
Monday, October 19, 2009
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